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Being Countercultural Men
1 Peter 3:7 – Perspective: Series from 1 Peter – March 6, 2022
Reading 1 Peter 3:1–7.
The culture’s messages about men:
But the Bible is the divine message from God that judges all other messages. Has the last word for us. As our Confession of Faith says,
Our faith must rest when Scripture speaks.
TFC Confession of Faith 1.10
Culture is constantly changing its mind about what it is to be a man, to be manly,
This week is kind of a Part 2 to last week on Being Countercultural Women.
This is the Part 2, addressed to the men about being a godly husband.
Perspective: 1 Peter series. Apostle Peter near end of his life. Perspective on the most important issues in our lives. Today, attributes of a godly husband.
Good tip as we work through these passages is from Ken Sande: Read Your Own Mail.
Sermon: Being countercultural husbands. (1) Understanding, (2) Honoring, (3) Blessing. First 2 lead to the 3rd.
Prayer – Ukraine, marriages, singles looking ahead at marriage
Important to get a clear sense of our context. How 3:7 connects to Peter’s argument.
“You, husbands in the same way / Likewise” – Ties it back to 2:11–12:
Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul. Keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation. (1 Pet 2:11–12)
Also need to see how 3:1–6 fits with 3:7.
In looking at 3:7 we’ll use the NASB translation. I think it captures the flow of thought in the Greek a little better than the ESV.
You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. (1 Pet 3:7, NASB)
The way the NASB has it you can see:
First part of the sentence is where we want to start: “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker.”
“Live with your wives in an understanding way”
“As with someone weaker” – Peter focuses on one specific area of knowledge.
First is “someone weaker” in the sense of being in a “socially weaker position,” more vulnerable in the society.[2]
Second is the more obvious: physical weakness.
In other words, His STRONG leadership must also possess a gentleness.
In Ukraine, examples of this kind of STRONG leadership, aware of the weakness of woman and children.
Peter is countercultural here, seeing a woman’s weakness rightly.
He began to speak boldly in the synagogue, but when Priscilla and Aquila heard him, they took him aside and explained to him the way of God more accurately. (Acts 18:26)
Older women…are to teach what is good, and so train the young women (Titus 2:3, 4)
Self-evaluation:
Now we turn to the second part of the sense, showing her honor:
You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. (1 Pet 3:7, NASB)
Second part of the sentence:
“Show her honor”
Honor everyone. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the emperor. (1 Pet 2:17)
“As a fellow heir of the grace of life”
Men should honor women because they share the same destiny—an eternal inheritance in God’s kingdom.
Thomas Schreiner[3]
Peter’s perspective was radical for the 1st century.
SELF-EVALUATION:
Now we’re at the purpose, the “SO THAT…”
You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. (1 Pet 3:7, NASB)
“So that your prayers will not be hindered.”
So concerned is God that Christian husbands live in an understanding and loving way with their wives, that he “interrupts” his relationship with them when they are not doing so. No Christian husband should presume to think that any spiritual good will be accomplished by his life without an effective ministry of prayer. And no husband may expect an effective prayer life unless he lives with his wife “in an understanding way, bestowing honor” on her. To take the time to develop and maintain a good marriage is God’s will; it is serving God; it is a spiritual activity pleasing in his sight.
Wayne Grudem, 1 Peter[5]
God does not bless with his favor those who are in positions of authority and abuse those who are under them by mistreating them.
Thomas Schreiner[6]
A really key point: When God entrusts you with authority, his blessings will be tied to how you exercise that authority.
Masters, do the same to them, and stop your threatening, knowing that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and that there is no partiality with him. (Eph 6:9)
“Behold, the princes of Israel in you, every one according to his power, have been bent on shedding blood. Father and mother are treated with contempt in you; the sojourner suffers extortion in your midst; the fatherless and the widow are wronged in you….I will scatter you among the nations and disperse you through the countries, and I will consume your uncleanness out of you.” (Ezek 22:6–7, 15)
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. (Col 3:21)
God also provides protections for a wife when her husband is not exercising his authority properly:
As we close we need to know that God’s ways are best.
Repentance…rooted in the gospel, 1 Peter 2:24
He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. (1 Pet 2:24)
Prayer and Closing Song
[1] On this, see Calvin on 1 Peter 3:7.
[2] Keener, 245.
[3] Thomas Schreiner, 1, 2 Peter, Jude, NAC, 161.
[4] See Craig Keener’s commentary on 1 Peter, 247–250.
[5] Wayne Grudem, 1 Peter, TNTC, 146.
[6] Thomas Schreiner, 1, 2 Peter, Jude, NAC, 161.
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